tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3068690574771703228.post1280269516654209287..comments2023-05-26T08:16:17.219-07:00Comments on Be You. Live Your Dream!: No More Problems!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03043862027969047380noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3068690574771703228.post-71989619242139539682013-06-14T21:37:55.963-07:002013-06-14T21:37:55.963-07:00You're welcome!! Sorry for my late response t...You're welcome!! Sorry for my late response to your response. I like what you have to say about responding when angry. It IS so much easier said than done, but then again, we have a lifetime to master it - if we are lucky :) Your blog is great, and such a good forum to explore these topics of spiritual expansion.Mariellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16170138952234748012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3068690574771703228.post-25582735197057842212013-06-11T04:31:39.721-07:002013-06-11T04:31:39.721-07:00(part two)
I'm still thinking about your wanti...(part two)<br />I'm still thinking about your wanting to handle anger-inducing incidents in a calmer manner. It's funny b/c I'm the opposite. I've actually WANTED to respond to those types of situations in a LESS calm way. I typically would act like nothing's bothering me, be the picture of "calm" and then have a complete melt down when I get home or in private. Then I'd often regret NOT saying or doing something in the moment, and NOT letting other people know how I feel. I tend to keep everything inside. So over the past year or longer I've been working on speaking up more and speaking my truth. I've gotten angry at my boyfriend a few times, and he's the ONLY person who I've felt comfortable enough letting see that angry side of me. That was "before" though, in "part one" of our relationship. Now I'm working on myself again. I don't think lashing out or getting angry AT someone else is good or helpful. Perhaps that's really what you're talking about. Responding calming IN the moment, TO the other people involved, while at the same time not ignoring your anger and letting it pass through? Yeah, all of that will be a challenge to master. But I'm sure you'll (and I'll) get plenty of opportunities from the Universe to practice. ;) <br /><br />Ok, here's what I'm thinking (this response has gotten long!). When you, or I, am feeling frustrated or angry, I think a good response initially is to relax and remind ourselves to keep our hearts open. Relax and focus on breathing, and focus on an open heart. Let at least a few seconds pass (assuming no one's in danger). I've actually heard that when you feel anger rising inside you, if you don't do anything, and just breathe through it and count to 30 (I think it's 30), the anger will pass. So maybe try that. Breathe, focus on the open heart, and let some time pass. Let your initial anger cool. THEN if the situation still merits talking to someone about whatever made you angry, talk to them in a calm manner and explain what happened and how you felt. And remember if the other person reacts to YOU with defensiveness or anger, remind yourself that's THEIR path and THEIR reaction. <br /><br />I know, still easier said than done. But I love your comment. Thanks for giving me something to think about! :)<br /><br />Sarah Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03043862027969047380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3068690574771703228.post-66949583109401332282013-06-11T04:31:16.634-07:002013-06-11T04:31:16.634-07:00Marielle,
I love your comment! I DO think that be...Marielle,<br />I love your comment! I DO think that being aware of your feelings is the first step. Not ignoring them and not pushing them back down. So that's good. But in regards to feeling like throwing something when you get angry, and if that's resistance... I'm not sure at this point. I feel the same way still sometimes. MAYBE letting anger passing through us INVOLVES throwing something from time to time. ;) I don't know. Honestly, as I think about it, I don't think that responding to anger (like by throwing something) means you're resisting it. I think NOT responding, and trying to push it down is resisting. If you GET angry, you're letting it come through you. The key is to let it KEEP moving through you and not hold on to what's making you angry, and then get resentful, or hold a grudge. But I think passing anger, and even responding to that anger sometimes, is ok. Just my thoughts.... great question! <br /><br />I DO feel like I'm having major breakthroughs on all of this, but honestly I haven't had any MAJOR past triggers yet either. I try to visualize how I'll react the next time I'm face to face with my boyfriend's ex-wife in a social situation, and I THINK I'll let the energy pass through me, and not resist, and not respond in fear like I did before. But I'm honestly interested to see just HOW I'll respond once I'm IN the situation. All of this is so easy to say, and harder to do. I get that. I've had little things come up that would normally trigger fear or judgment, and so I'm getting to work on that. "Open in Love" is still a phrase I repeat to myself countless times when I feel my heart closing in response to anything (stuck behind a slow driver, seeing a person I'd typically judge, something not working out like I wanted it to, etc.). <br /><br />(more in part two)<br />SarahAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03043862027969047380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3068690574771703228.post-24792844099162289462013-06-10T22:03:07.050-07:002013-06-10T22:03:07.050-07:00Great post Sarah. I could tell you're having m...Great post Sarah. I could tell you're having major breakthroughs to enlightenment! That's awesome. I'm still struggling with this one. I try not to label a situation as "bad," but it's hard to do since I get sooo reactive to it. My body tenses up literally and I stop breathing. I'm trying to come to terms with the concept of "just letting it pass through you", but I'm having difficulty fully understanding this, because isn't it good that I FEEL my feelings about this person or situation, whether it be frustration or anger? It's easier to let sadness pass through me, but when I feel angry, I just want to ... react, to throw something. Does that mean I'm resisting? I guess not ... For me, I have a difficult time responding instead of reacting. I want to handle the situation in a calm manner, because if I am not resisting, I should be calmer right? But I can't help those feelings of anger sometimes, and I know it's not healthy to deny them. So I react. I know this is a rambling message so I hope it all makes sense. Thanks. :)Mariellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16170138952234748012noreply@blogger.com