It's YOUR life. What do YOU want?
Simple question. Not always a simple, easy answer. But worth giving it some serious thought for sure.
Everyone has expectations. Expectations for ourselves and expectations of others. I'm sure we can all describe some of the expectations others have of us. Family members expect certain things of and from us, no doubt. But even strangers make flash judgments of you, and therefore, have expectations on what you are likely to do or not do.
To be true to ourselves, we must learn to ignore these expectations. Get in tune with YOU. Your inner spirit. Your link to the Universe. Now, what do you want?
This is your life to create. Your life to build. Your life to make of what you will.
You are the only one who truly has to live with the decisions and choices you make.
Do you want to quit your job, take that leap of faith, and pursue a new career path?
Do you want to leave your current relationship and get back to you?
Do you want to have a child? Adopt a pet? Buy a house?
These are serious life questions. The "easy wants," such as "I want some ice cream," or "I want to eat at this restaurant," aren't that difficult to fulfill. They won't alter your life path that greatly. But career, relationships, family... those are another level. That's precisely why it's even more important to tune into your inner spirit. Where is it leading you? Down what path do you feel pulled?
Whatever it is, it's ok. It's YOUR life! Think of your life like a blank canvas or a movie just beginning. What colors do you see on that canvas? What lines? What hues, tints, shades? What pictures, shapes, forms? It's all up to you! If your life were a movie, where you are the leading actor/actress, what supporting roles do you see? What plot lines would you like your character to go through? It's all up to you!
No, you can't know how things will turn out. Not exactly anyway. But you CAN know you will end up exactly where you're supposed to be. You CAN trust the Universe to never lead you astray. If you have a desire in your heart, it's your spirit speaking to you. Listen.
I'm not condoning making rash decisions. One day thinking you'd like to have a dog and the next day adopting one. One day being unhappy in your job, so you up and quit. One day feeling like you'd like to be a mother or father (but you're single), so you immediately run out to a sperm bank or adoption organization and fill out an application.
But if you've given something some serious thought. If you've sat with it, meditated on it, slept on it many nights, and you still have that desire in your heart, it might just be time to go for it.
This thought struck me just a few hours ago as I was doing laundry. I've been struggling with what to do about my current relationship. Stay or go? End it or stick it out? Re-commit and make an effort or let it go and move on? I realized that a lot of the reasons behind the feeling I should stay in the relationship are external reasons. I don't want to disappoint people. I don't want to hurt people. It's what I "should" be doing (right?). Then as I was picking up clean clothes to bring back upstairs from the basement, the thought popped in my head, "What do YOU want?"
Suddenly everyone else disappeared. Of course I don't want to hurt anyone, but I can't control how others will respond or what direction they'll take their life. What I can control is what direction I take my own life. And you can too.
Quotes of the Day:
"The inward journey is about finding your own fullness, something that no one else can take away." (Deepak Chopra)
"If you have the capacity to be more than one thing, do everything that's inside of you." (Bishop T.D. Jakes)
"Go for it now. The future is promised to no one." (Wayne Dyer)
"You can't steal second base and keep your foot on first." (Frederick Wilcox)