Friday, February 22, 2013

There's No Hurry

The Universe flows in perfect harmony.  Everything happens at the perfect time.  It's like nature.  Nothing is forced or pushed or demanded.  Trees bud and flowers bloom when the time is right. 

"Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished,"  Lao Tzu.

We should try to be more like nature.  We are a part of nature, after all.  Why do we think we know better?  Why do we push things, force things, and try to hurry things along? 

Because we want something.  We want it now.  Success, fame, money, marriage, what-have-you.

"Imagine all you'd like to experience in life and then let go," Wayne Dyer, Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

A little over a year ago I wrote on this subject in my journal.  I just reread that day's entry.  The two areas I was uncertain about were my writing career and my relationship. 

I'll share what I wrote here.

"That's where I'm at and what I need to remember to do.  Let go and flow with the current of life.  My current is perfect for me
"The books I'm writing, I haven't felt like writing at all (except here) for a couple weeks now.  So I haven't.  And I haven't felt like there's any need to.  No need to rush.  Go with the flow.
"With [my boyfriend] -- I still wonder at times if we're right for each other.  We have different expectations of life.  I know anything is possible, he doesn't believe that.... Time will tell though.  Let it flow its natural course.  No need to push or force anything.  I'll know in time."

That was January 19, 2012.  I did finish that book I was working on, and it's out now on Amazon.  Will it reach monumental success?  The jury's still out on that one.  I'm still "going with the flow" there.  I also knew what to do with my boyfriend, in time.  I needed more experiences with him, but eventually I knew.  He moved out about a week shy of one year after that journal writing. 

It's ok if we don't know everything right now.  If there's a certain area in our life (or all areas of our life) that feel like a big question mark.  Just keep going.  Keep following your heart.  Readjust the tuning into your spirit.  Take it one step at a time, one day at a time, one experience at a time.  And in time, all will unfold naturally. 

At times I still get flashes of worry about whether or not I'll "make it" as a writer.  Will I make enough to support myself through my writing alone?  Will I achieve the success I dream of? 

Initially I wanted to respond, "I don't know."  But I do know.  I will achieve that success.  I just need to continually remind myself that there's no hurry.  (Granted, at times it may likely feel like there's a hurry... like when my savings eventually run out and I'm bringing in less than I need... but I'm not to that point yet.  And I may never be.  So for now, there's no reason to worry or hurry.) 

The Universe provides for us all, at all times.  I truly believe that.  Of course, sometimes that provision comes from sources we never saw coming, and in such a way that we didn't expect or think we wanted.  But we are provided for.  We are taken care of.

A year and a half ago I decided to quit my full-time job to making writing my full-time profession.  I had enough money in savings to last me, if I didn't get another job, about six months, give or take.  So I took the leap. 

And something completely unexpected happened.  My grandfather passed away.  My grandfather who I only recently reconnected with, about seven or eight years ago (long story...but my parents divorced when I was little and when my mom remarried, my "step-dad" legally adopted me -- my biological father gave up all rights -- and since then, I (still a young child) lost contact with my biological father's family for the next 20 years or so). 

So I fly to Florida for my grandfather's memorial, which is also somewhat of a reunion for me with that whole side of my family.  (The only other time I'd seen them was at my biological father's memorial, eight or so years ago.) 

At one point my aunt and uncle pull me aside and tell me my grandfather put me in his will.  I had no idea.  Instead of saying the exact dollar amount I was to inherit, since dollar amounts mean widely different things to different people, based on the part of the country or world in which you live and your current financial standing... I was to inherit enough for me to live on for at least two years! 

I wasn't made an instant millionnaire, or anything like that, but I suddenly had more financial security than I had just moments prior.  I was given the gift of peace.  I no longer had to "make it" as a writer in six months.  I now had over two years.  I no longer felt the pressure that I had before to "hurry up and get some stuff out there."  I could breathe. 

Another funny twist in this story is that the inheritance didn't come through (thanks to lawyers and court proceedings) for about six months.  Six months.  Precisely how long I was able to live on my own current savings.  I was literally down to having a month or so left in savings, when I got the check in the mail.  Talk about being provided for!    

The Universe is watching out for all of us in that same way.  We can't see around the corners, but some wonderful stuff is there for us. 

So know that, sit back, and relax. 

Well, ok, maybe not entirely.  There still is work to be done.  If I want to be a successful author, I need to keep writing.  And keep publishing my stuff.  But there's no hurry.     

As long as we're holding our dream in our hearts, believing in it, and taking steps towards it, that is enough.  We'll get there.  Or rather, it'll get to us.  At just the right time.  And it'll be perfect!

Quotes of the Day:

"Patience is the companion of wisdom."  (St. Augustine)

"Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset."  (Saint Francis de Sales)    

"Whoever is in a hurry shows that the thing he is about is too big for him."  (Lord Chesterfield)




  1. This is such a good message especially in today's world of instant gratification. I am also reminded of the sentiment, do what you love and the money will follow.

    1. Jeanette,
      That is a good sentiment! Many of the very wealthy people whose stories I've heard said exactly that -- they didn't get into what they're doing for the money, they did it b/c they enjoyed it and were passionate about it. Then it "just happened" to take off for them and make them incredibly rich.
      Besides, I've always favored happiness and peace of mind over money anyway. That is, if I have to choose between the two. ;)